Tips To Gain Self Awareness And Self Understanding

As we live each day, it can be easy to get caught up in the busyness of our world especially as a single dad. Following the latest trends and allowing social media and our friends to tell us how to think and what to feel. It can be hard to return to our roots and to know what you think when no one else is involved.

Self-awareness and self-understanding revolve around the idea of knowing yourself. It is about more than knowing that your favorite color is green and that you would…


Divorced Dads Find Your Purpose

Do you often wonder what your purpose is in this life? You aren’t alone, and divorce provides us with an opportunity to assess and adjust our purpose. Below are five tips that can help you to better search for your purpose and understand it when you do find it.

Look Inside Yourself

The number one mistake that people tend to make as they look for their purpose is that they look everywhere in their environment or life, but don’t take a look inside themselves. Finding your purpose is about finding something that leaves you feeling fulfilled, and if you are…


Psychologists define assertiveness as “the ability to express yourself in a calm, open, and direct way while still respecting others.” Assertiveness is the intermediary between an aggressive and passive style of communication. It is rated as a vital skill that improves the quality of life and relationships with friends, family, and co-workers.

Assertive people take a point of view and defend it while helping others understand their point of view. People who lack this skill have their boundaries constantly violated by others. Assertiveness is a skill and is associated with self-confidence and self-respect. …


A great profession, a lovely family, and an expansive social circle may seem to be the ideal formula for a pleasant life. People who check all of those boxes, even after everything, may feel as if something is lacking — that “something” is missing in their lives. We’re talking about the icky sense that something is lacking in your life, maybe even despite having everything you ever desired. Does this describe you? You’re not alone, so don’t worry.

If you’ve come to a moment in your life where you’re wondering, “Who am I?” …


A sad fact of life is the fact that misfortune happens to everyone. It’s a sad reality of life and cannot be avoided no matter how hard you struggle in a bid to avoid trouble. It can be anything from sickness, accidents, monetary and relationship issues. While most struggles can be avoided, most of them are out of our control, and we would be faced with trying to deal with them when they occur.

This article shall discuss five simple ways of dealing with struggles in a constructive way. …


Do you believe that abundance is your birthright? I didn’t. I grew up with a hoarder. My mom saved everything from grocery receipts to her childhood clothes. If you visit her house you will find a collection of 80+ years on this planet. It is a museum of her life buried under pile after pile. It is a sad mental disorder, but what about modern society’s mentality about abundance?

Unfortunately, society today has adopted the hoarder’s scarcity complex of NEVER having “enough.” As you can imagine, exposure to the constant message of scarcity wires your brain to worry about having…


As we celebrate the Thanksgiving holiday here in the United States I am grateful for many things. Among others, these include my family and our good health, the country in which I live, my faith in a greater good, and my clarity of thought around intersexual dynamics.

I know you’re thinking, “Really? He is thankful for clarity around intersexual dynamics?” Yes, it is true and you and every other divorced father should be aware of the active rewriting of the narrative around intersexual dynamics. …


The month of November is Men’s Health Awareness month and today we celebrate International Men’s Day. If you haven’t heard of this celebratory day I am not surprised. Unfortunately, the nature of the existing support system for men is dismal at best and highly feminine-centric. While this is good for women who traditionally have been the most vulnerable it is now causing a severe burden on men and their children and has become detrimental to society as a whole. Take the statistics in the following chart as an example of the current crisis.

I have set out on a mission…


Because of the numerous questions I receive from dads just entering into the divorce process, I am starting this periodic series of articles called “Practical Advice.” My goal in sharing this feedback is to give fathers a general idea regarding the process of divorce based upon my experience and the knowledge and information that I have garnered through my work with other fathers.

One of the top questions I get is, “When or should I hire a lawyer?”

It is not my place to give specific advice about your divorce as I believe that every man and their particular circumstance…


Throughout my divorce, I experienced a tsunami of emotions and feelings. Many times this tsunami would wash over me at inopportune times such as smack dab in the middle of the workday. As I described in “Dads’ Guide To Divorce Step 5: Master Your Psychology,” we don’t conjure up our thoughts, they simply appear without our summoning or approval. They’re a major pain in the butt if we aren’t prepared and they rear their ugly head when we least expect it. There’s nothing like choking back the tears and sadness of the memory of the day’s parenting time transition, knowing…

Jude: The Divorced Dadvocate

Jude helps dads navigate through their divorce and create an amazing life for themselves and their children. www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com

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