As we celebrate the Thanksgiving holiday here in the United States I am grateful for many things. Among others, these include my family and our good health, the country in which I live, my faith in a greater good, and my clarity of thought around intersexual dynamics.

I know you’re thinking, “Really? He is thankful for clarity around intersexual dynamics?” Yes, it is true and you and every other divorced father should be aware of the active rewriting of the narrative around intersexual dynamics. …


The month of November is Men’s Health Awareness month and today we celebrate International Men’s Day. If you haven’t heard of this celebratory day I am not surprised. Unfortunately, the nature of the existing support system for men is dismal at best and highly feminine-centric. While this is good for women who traditionally have been the most vulnerable it is now causing a severe burden on men and their children and has become detrimental to society as a whole. Take the statistics in the following chart as an example of the current crisis.

I have set out on a mission…


Because of the numerous questions I receive from dads just entering into the divorce process, I am starting this periodic series of articles called “Practical Advice.” My goal in sharing this feedback is to give fathers a general idea regarding the process of divorce based upon my experience and the knowledge and information that I have garnered through my work with other fathers.

One of the top questions I get is, “When or should I hire a lawyer?”

It is not my place to give specific advice about your divorce as I believe that every man and their particular circumstance…


Throughout my divorce, I experienced a tsunami of emotions and feelings. Many times this tsunami would wash over me at inopportune times such as smack dab in the middle of the workday. As I described in “Dads’ Guide To Divorce Step 5: Master Your Psychology,” we don’t conjure up our thoughts, they simply appear without our summoning or approval. They’re a major pain in the butt if we aren’t prepared and they rear their ugly head when we least expect it. There’s nothing like choking back the tears and sadness of the memory of the day’s parenting time transition, knowing…


When working with fathers entering into a divorce or who have recently divorced, there is a 5-step process through which I assist them in identifying and implementing an action plan for their lives. Throughout this Dads’ Guide to Divorce series, I will be sharing this specific process with detailed ways in which you can utilize it in order to achieve an amazing life for you and your children.

Step 5: Master Your Psychology

In the last four articles in the “Dads’ Guide to Divorce” series I shared the first four steps of Clarifying Your Vision And Direction, Strategizing Your Actions


When working with fathers entering into a divorce or who have recently divorced, there is a 5-step process through which I assist them in identifying and implementing an action plan for their lives. Throughout this Dads’ Guide to Divorce series, I will be sharing this specific process with detailed ways in which you can utilize it in order to achieve an amazing life for you and your children.

Step 4: Optimize Your Environment

If we do not create and control our environment, our environment creates and controls us.” — Dr. Marshall Goldsmith

In the last three articles in the “Dads’…


When working with fathers entering into a divorce or who have recently divorced, there is a 5-step process through which I assist them in identifying and implementing an action plan for their lives. Throughout this Dads’ Guide to Divorce series, I will be sharing this specific process with detailed ways in which you can utilize it in order to achieve an amazing life for you and your children.

Step 3: Upgrade Your Skills

In my last two articles in the “Dads’ Guide to Divorce” series we spoke about the initial steps of Clarifying Your Vision And Direction and Strategizing Your…


When working with fathers entering into a divorce or who have recently divorced, there is a 5-step process through which I assist them in identifying and implementing an action plan for their lives. Throughout this Dads’ Guide to Divorce series, I will be sharing the specific process with detailed ways in which you can utilize it in order to achieve an amazing life for you and your children.

Step 2: Strategize Your Actions

In my last article “Dads’ Guide to Divorce: Step 1 — Clarify Your Vision” we spoke about how when entering into a divorce or beginning life post-divorce…


When working with fathers entering into a divorce or who have recently divorced, there is a 5-step process through which I assist them in identifying and implementing an action plan for their lives. Throughout this Dads’ Guide to Divorce series, I will be sharing this specific process with a detailed description of ways in which you can utilize it in order to achieve an amazing life for you and your children.

Step 1: Clarify Your Vision and Direction

When entering into a divorce or beginning life post-divorce, many men including myself struggle with clarifying a vision and establishing a direction…


Lately, I’ve noticed a common misconception arising in the work that I do with men, specifically divorced fathers. That is the notion that sacrifice is bad and should be avoided at all costs.

The word sacrifice is defined as…

Sacrifice (verb): to suffer loss of, give up, renounce, injure, or destroy especially for an ideal, belief, or end

Sacrifice has taken on this negative connotation in modern-day society. It seems that everywhere we look, we see and hear the same message about getting and having everything that we want and getting it now!

Take slogans such as…

“Have it your…

Jude: The Divorced Dadvocate

Jude helps dads navigate through their divorce and create an amazing life for themselves and their children. www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com

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