Confessions of a Tired Dad

We are all a mess.

We’re a mess. Each of us. We get impatient and irritable. There are limits to our energy, our resources, and our abilities. But we are called to be dads nonetheless. As a mess, we parent beautiful little messes. If you’re not paying attention, this could be taken as discouraging. It doesn’t have to be.

It’s OK to be tired.

You need to know it’s OK to be a tired dad, and it’s OK not to have all the answers. It’s OK not to be the toughest, the smartest, the best at handling money, or a master at tackling tough conversations. I’m saying this even as I need the reminder myself. Sometimes, we each need validation that reminds us how draining life and responsibility can be. I’ve had really great dads come into my office and say something like, “I’m tired, man. I work. I go to my kids’ practices. I try to spend time with my wife and show her I love her. I try to help out around the house. I’m working on being a good person and getting better, but I’m tired.” And I’ll look at that man and say, “Sounds like you’ve got a good reason for it, my brother.”

And you can keep going.

What about you? You need to hear this too: Good work. You’re doing it. You’re allowed to make mistakes. But keep going. Being a dad is really hard work and it’s not for the faint of heart. It takes courage, and sometimes double when you’re trying to make changes. But here you are. You’re reading. You’re looking for answers. You’re growing. Now how about taking one more step today by participating in a dialogue with other tired dads? Have you got it in you? Use the space at the bottom of this page. Write a word of encouragement or share a small slice of your story. It can make a big difference. You remember how much it can help simply to know you’re not the only one who feels the way you do. Let’s take a minute to cheer one another on. And then, after that, go take a nap. You probably need it.



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